by Ali Valdez
Taking advantage of a slower paced July, I continue to explore liminality, nesting in the breach between being a control freak dervish obsessed about the future, and tamasic like a lazy bull in a spring field sans a single care in the world. This has afforded me pockets of expanse to gain clarity and sit in the stew of feelings before the obligations of business and family simmer their way to a boil. Getting in touch with some of the feelings that have historically been placed on the back burner have naturally led me to seeking remedies, taking a proactive stance to nurture and heal any broken places while I have a window to do so. It’s not about solving problems or making anything go away; liminality doesn’t work that way, nor is it bound by lineal time.
Here are a few ways that I have taken advantage of this season of suspension, the space between driving forward and checking out.
Bach remedies– for years, I have been growing herbs and plants, taking my Taurean strides in the garden. Bach remedies (think flower medicine) has always intrigued me, and although I have researched them at length, I have never purchased. Last week, this changed after one of my meditations, and I love what four drops under the tongue can do. Flowers are gentle and pure, and you feel this. I am currently working with two plants I loved cultivating when I lived on an expansive farm overlooking the ocean in the foothills of Santa Barbara: honeysuckle and morning glory. I feel like both have been calling for a while, and I think this eclipse season was well-played for working with Morning Glory. Bach remedies are amazing. You can get them at Herban Wellness in downtown Kirkland.
Dreaming and journaling– blame it on the moon or the two July eclipses thus far (like everyone else does, HA!), but my dreams have been serving up such great stories, and I’ve been writing them down, reflecting and in some cases, taking actions on them.
Extended meditation time– as I condition my mind and body more into the art of un-doing, infinite possibilities have emerged. The one I most coveted, long stretches of quiet time, has come back and I’m relishing it. Not having to crack one eye open to check the clock, not feeling my heartbeat before the timer goes off has been incredible. This won’t last long, so have to take it when I can get it, right?
Long walks– twice a day, I take the dogs out. Same trail, same walk, we are always on a schedule. Lately, they have been steering off course, less hurriedly and longer lasting. Even in the surprising July rain, it’s been a blessing. My daughter has recently embraced going to the gym which is something I used to love doing regularly, and now we can do it together.
What are some ways that you are self-caring? Are you affording yourself enough time to simply be without the encumbrances of your phone, your kids or your work? It is my hope you can find joy in simple things…free of charge and rich on reward.